585. The Positive

When some things are going wrong enough, it’s easy to forget that some other things are going right. But there usually are things going right, even if they’re hard to notice in the middle of a crisis. Ignoring what’s going wrong can make things worse; problems shouldn’t just be swept under the rug. But what’s…

584. Image

People don’t always do what they would have done if they’d only known better. They often have reasons to wish they’d done things differently. And that can be exactly how they get to know better next time. Foolishness, reviewed intelligently, can be a great way to get wise. College, for example, can be a great…

583. A Little Hindsight

Almost immediately after I wrote “Grievances,” I got feedback from several parents and teachers on my e-mailing list. Some thought that Ellen, the teacher, had done the right thing – listened to children’s thoughts and feelings. Others thought that she should not have allowed that discussion to take place the way it did – that…

582. Grievances

Twenty angry children came in from gym class one day and began telling their teacher, Ellen, how unfair the gym teacher was. The gym teacher had stopped a soccer game because of the behavior of some of the children. Some of the children had gotten a little carried away, and had said some things that…